A space to understand yourself more deeply, reconnect with your needs, and create change from the root rather than endlessly fighting the symptom.
For a long time, I believed change came through effort, discipline, and pushing through. And to an extent it worked, but it also came with a lot of pressure, anxiety, negativity, and white-knuckling, alongside certain patterns I just couldn’t seem to shift.
Over time, I became much more interested in the nervous system and the deeper needs underneath our behaviours.
What I’ve come to believe is that many of the things we judge ourselves most harshly for are actually our body’s clever way of meeting deeper needs that would otherwise go unmet.
So much of healing, for me, is not about trying harder, but discovering what the deeper need is, learning how to meet it consciously, and then allowing those behaviours to fall away naturally because they are no longer needed by the body — rather than using all our willpower to white-knuckle our way through change.
Lack of confidence, emotions that won’t quite go away, dopamine-seeking behaviours, procrastination, the inability to do the thing we want to want to do, relationship struggles, anxiety, emotional overwhelm — often these things make much more sense once we understand what they’ve been trying to do for us.