Q. What is, and what happens during, a chemistry session?
A. Before we agree to work together, it's important to make sure that the coaching relationship works well, i.e. that we have the right chemistry between us. A chemistry session is simply an initial coaching session where we get to know each other. Here are a few things I look for during a chemistry session:
Do we get on like a house on fire? Do we have that coaching chemistry?
Do we work, think and communicate in complimentary ways? Do we ‘get’ each other?
Does it feel comfortable and safe enough for honesty and straightforwardness to flow freely and kindly both ways?
Are we willing to go “all in”? I.e. to commit to change – to be challenged in unexpected ways – to aim high, but start from the ground up – to turn up on time and without distractions so we can be fully present?
Do we believe in each other? An essential part of the coaching relationship.
Does the coaching style suit your needs?
Q. How are you getting such amazing outcomes in areas you don’t have experience in?
A. I don’t need the same life experiences or expertise as my clients – they already have that. Clients rarely need more expertise because this usually leads to the treatment of symptomatic issues and distracting from the core causal issue. You may even end up solving that problem, but if the core issue is not addressed then it will inevitably create new symptomatic issues again and again. When the core issue IS understood and treated the impact is wide-reaching and impactful beyond what most people ever hope for.
Q. What sort of things do people come to you with?
A. All sorts, but here are a few common ones:
“I’d like to optimise my life – especially in areas I’m blind to.”
"I want to make more money."
“I’d like to know what to do about my relationship with X.”
“I want to stop procrastinating about this.”
“I want to feel a sense of purpose/peace/meaning”
“Please help me make this tough decision.”
“I’d like to do this life transition well.”
“I need more balance.”
“I’d like to be more structured/efficient/productive.”
“Help me start my business/project/habit.”
“I’d like to enjoy my career again.”
“I’d like to stop feeling this way.”
“Help me get healthy.”
Q. What will I actually get from coaching? What results can I expect?
A. I can’t answer this question exactly, because I don’t know you yet or what your goals are, but I can tell you that they are likely not the results you expect. Most people come to me with 1,2 or 3 goals they'd like to achieve, but more often than not, those goals are symptoms of something much more fundamental. The goal of our coaching is to heal that root maladaptive behaviour/belief. This results in changes to one's whole way of being and many more positive shifts than just the goals clients come in with.
Here are just some of the amazing results my clients have experienced:
“I’m actually doing all the things I tried to make myself do for years. And best of all, it feels easy! My whole life has changed! ”
"I'm sleeping well for the first time in my life."
"My whole life has been terribly effected by my really bad lateness problem. I tried what felt like everything, but nothing helped...until my sessions with Kiara. I haven't been late through any fault of my own since our coaching."
"For the first time in my life I love spending time with my parents. A thing I thought was impossible and wasn't even what I came to coaching for."
"I feel unstoppable! I'm nailing my goals at an astonishing rate."
"I've gone from years of really bad arguing and feeling resentment towards my partner, to feeling like the luckiest woman in the world. My relationship is healthy and that's effected every other part of my life!"
"My migraines have just stopped!
"Look at how much weight I've lost?!?! It wasn't even hard, Kiara!!"
Questions and answers
Here are some of the most common questions and concerns that people have about coaching:
